Alcohol, hints, tips, advice etc.

uptheblues said:
I’ve just done a month with any booze , feel so much better for it , my sleep pattern is great and enjoying my weekends more , definitely want to keep it up , I wish some friends could be more understanding, some friends seem to take it like a personal insult if you say you don’t want a drink
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Don’t sound like friends worth having mate.
 
uptheblues said:
I’ve just done a month with any booze , feel so much better for it , my sleep pattern is great and enjoying my weekends more , definitely want to keep it up , I wish some friends could be more understanding, some friends seem to take it like a personal insult if you say you don’t want a drink
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I raise a glass to you, assuming that's ok with you ;)
 
uptheblues said:
I’ve just done a month with any booze , feel so much better for it , my sleep pattern is great and enjoying my weekends more , definitely want to keep it up , I wish some friends could be more understanding, some friends seem to take it like a personal insult if you say you don’t want a drink
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Difficult when your friends and social life revolves around the pub/beer
Don’t see a few of my pals now that I’ve stopped drinking…..
 
I did Dry January and February up to now I've had no more than twenty five units of Alcohol, which is a lot,lot less then I'd normally have. What Spurs me on most,is a close friend, who simply can't give up on booze , often a weekend is at least a dozen can or pints per session (Friday and Saturday)& a bottle of brandy an evening! We are both sixty later this year, he's taken his pension though still working I'm working but not taken a pension Yet.His attitude is he won't see state pension age so why bother cutting down! He has a wife and two girls, watching him potentially drink his life away is sobering enough if not selfish on his part. He's just begun to be a burden on The NHS, because of his lifestyle (now overweight and doesn't exercise), I've been trying all I can for a few years to change his way of life without success. His attitude drive's me not to abuse what I've got and that includes almost cutting out the demon drink. I want to help mate more,but frankly running out of ideas.
 
uptheblues said:
I’ve just done a month with any booze , feel so much better for it , my sleep pattern is great and enjoying my weekends more , definitely want to keep it up , I wish some friends could be more understanding, some friends seem to take it like a personal insult if you say you don’t want a drink
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It's not just friends, complete strangers can act like you've just wiped your arse on their children's bed sheets if you refuse a drink. My socialising has dramatically reduced since I got sober because I'm tired of being belittled by insecure gobshites who can't leave a person's choice alone
 
Debaser said:
It's not just friends, complete strangers can act like you've just wiped your arse on their children's bed sheets if you refuse a drink. My socialising has dramatically reduced since I got sober because I'm tired of being belittled by insecure gobshites who can't leave a person's choice alone
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I love a drink, as I’ve posted on here previously, but I absolutely hate when cunts do this, either to me when I’m not drinking, or to others. Actually end up being really abrupt with people if they ask more than once. I think it’s the height of bad manners, selfish, self-absorbed and lacking in empathy. If someone says no to a drink, they will have their reasons, whatever they are, and that should be the end of it.
 
uptheblues said:
I’ve just done a month with any booze , feel so much better for it , my sleep pattern is great and enjoying my weekends more , definitely want to keep it up , I wish some friends could be more understanding, some friends seem to take it like a personal insult if you say you don’t want a drink
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This has been the hardest thing for me. There are some people who I was close to, who I barely see now. I think sometimes when we decide not to drink, it makes people question their own relationship with alcohol and maybe they don't like what they see. But aren't ready to do anything about it.
 
uptheblues said:
I’ve just done a month with any booze , feel so much better for it , my sleep pattern is great and enjoying my weekends more , definitely want to keep it up , I wish some friends could be more understanding, some friends seem to take it like a personal insult if you say you don’t want a drink
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More and more pubs are doing zero alcohol decent options. Makes it easier.
 
bluegirl74 said:
This has been the hardest thing for me. There are some people who I was close to, who I barely see now. I think sometimes when we decide not to drink, it makes people question their own relationship with alcohol and maybe they don't like what they see. But aren't ready to do anything about it.
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I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there.

Those “oh go on, take a drink big man” people aren’t healthy for you to be around if you are easily influenced, I do think that in the most part they are doing it subconsciously rather than maliciously though. Hopefully with time being AF will be even more accepted as a society norm.
 
MadchesterCity said:
Your right about it being a cultural thing, alchohol is everywhere and is a “requirement” for every social occasion. It’s amazing how easy it is to creep from just going out for a beer to enjoying 8, to destroying over 20 pints of Guinness plus shots, staggering through the door at 6 in the morning covered in spilled drinks, kebabs but minus keys, contents of wallet and self pride. Alternatively for home drinking, how simple it is to move from a glass of red with lunch, to guzzling a couple of bottles and thinking to head out to the offie to go buy more then falling asleep on the sofa. If I’m being honest my biggest problem is I’ve always done everything to excess, I’m very full on, I’m ultra competitive at everything I do and bizarrely that includes drinking, I drink like a fish, one beer is rarely one beer once you get a taste you can forget about going home until you are last man standing. I’ve been lucky that although I really enjoy whisky and spirits I’ve never felt the need to abuse them, I think from there it is a very slippery and fast slope into self destruction. I’m lucky that my wife doesn’t drink, which I believe makes cutting back/ out much easier. It must be much harder if you and your partner are habitually drinking together. The covid lockdowns will have caused so much turmoil and destruction within families, created many alchohol dependent individuals due among other reasons fear, isolation and boredom. That said for whatever the reason, the battle is there to be won, change is easier than you believe, you are stronger than you expect. I don’t want to seem self important or that I’m bragging but I’ve woke up today in a really good mood and thankful as to how much better I am feeling due to my lifestyle changes. Stupid and immaturely of me I used to look at friends who don’t drink as weird, but now I understand their struggles and admire them for their journey/ choices. Sorry to go on but I just wanted to say my piece and wish everyone well in their personal battles.
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Your point about spirits ,when I was in my prime about 15 pints a day the Mrs dragged me to the doctors for a blood test ,the thinking was showing me my liver and kidneys were fucked would shock me into stopping .
When the results came back they weren't too bad not fucked she was gutted and couldn't understand why ,the doctor explained it's the spirits that do the damage and I was only doing industrial amounts of lager ,
Since stopping later blood tests have shown their functions back to normal ,quite remarkable realy
 
1961_vintage said:
More and more pubs are doing zero alcohol decent options. Makes it easier.
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Having been a fully functioning alcoholic,10 years + dry this is something I carnt get my head round never drank because I liked the taste if I'm honest the taste is awful ,only drank for the effect of trying to get back to everyone elses "normal "
Really don't want that shit taste in my mouth again if I'm not self medicating myself
Each to their own tho
 
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