This forum is the real world, just as much as off it is the real world. That is important, as treating it as if it is not the real world is exceedingly dangerous for a myriad of reasons, some of which we have seen recently, unfortunately. We are all accountable for what we say on here in a similar way to how we are accountable to what we say off of the forum (you, yourself, have seemingly made that point; if this isn’t the real world, why would it matter what we post in this thread?). This is probably a discussion for the Off Topic forum, though, so I won’t go any further here, other than to point out the contradiction in your own stated positions.
Beyond that, though, I disagree with your overall premise regarding the criticism of referees, but am fine with your raising it. What I take issue with is your not actually engaging directly with other posters (including having the integrity to tag them in when you are directly criticising their posts), but rather choosing to make blanket statements about how blues post on the forum (and not just in this thread). That isn’t good faith behaviour and smacks of a troll, not a genuine blue looking to engage with other blues.
But I will take you at your word that you are a long time blue that has just decided to join the forum and tell everyone how they should be behaving on it.