How Do You Respond To Stress?

[bobmcfc]

I need hugs and love when I'm stressed.

I think it's interesting though, there is this stereotype between Man and Women that Men should be the rock, the strong one that we lean on and the one who is there to assure us that everything is alright, but that's unfair isn't it ? I mean we all have this pressure and we all need the same support as the next person don't we ?

You're right. My wife is a source of strength to me when I eventually decide to open up and talk to her about things. She doesn't always have the right answers or indeed say things that I want to hear but nonetheless it is good to talk. I've bottled up my stress for a bit too long now so maybe it's time for me to have a chat with her and she can talk me through it.

But yes, The stereotype that society expects us to conform to is wrong and is not truly representative of real life.

How odd that you can type on this forum and say that it's time to talk to your wife. I know exactly what you mean though we are like a family on here and often share shit before we do with our significant others

I mean look at us, so many personas on this forum but deep down we are very sensitive souls with the same issues as everyone else. This place is an outlet for all our everyday shit sometimes

 

[Mayor West]

Panic panic panic, want to give up and lock myself in a box until stressful situation is over.pretty much.

 

[Uncle Wally One Ball]

I respond to it better these days than I used to. I have a very stressful job which I generally thrive off and use the pressure to my advantage. Sometimes though it can get too much and stress kicks in. I tend to go quiet and a bit into my shell and have trouble sleeping with it. If I get off to sleep its only for an hour or two and then awake all night mulling things over. What Ive learned to is put things into perspective and take some time out to get my head straight, even if its just a couple of days or a weekend, and spend time with friends doing fun stuff and whatever I want to do. It tends to make me realise what is more important. I get as much exercise as I can to help ease the pressure and that helps me to sleep as well. Then, I tackle whatever the issues that are stressing me head on and get stuck straight into them.

 

[dronefromsector7g]

You're right. My wife is a source of strength to me when I eventually decide to open up and talk to her about things. She doesn't always have the right answers or indeed say things that I want to hear but nonetheless it is good to talk. I've bottled up my stress for a bit too long now so maybe it's time for me to have a chat with her and she can talk me through it.

But yes, The stereotype that society expects us to conform to is wrong and is not truly representative of real life.

How odd that you can type on this forum and say that it's time to talk to your wife. I know exactly what you mean though we are like a family on here and often share shit before we do with our significant others

I mean look at us, so many personas on this forum but deep down we are very sensitive souls with the same issues as everyone else. This place is an outlet for all our everyday shit sometimes

People generally seem less judgmental on here, or maybe the judgmental ones stay silent on such topics. I lost so called 'friends' a long time ago when I revealed my lowest point. It certainly makes you pick your friends carefully once that happens. I like the anonymity of the web (though I've met 20 forum members in real life it's only brief)

 

[nelsons willie]

Stress tends to make me feel tired. I sleep a lot

has the opposite effect on me i lie wide awake worrying,normally about other people's problems (usually my daughter).

Same here, ive been worried sick for 3 weeks about my ex of 2 years because she moved into a new place and had nothing apart from packing boxes. The thought of her having to sleep on the floor really upset me. She didnt even have anything to sit on when she got home from work. Just found out her friends rallied round and she sent me a pic of her flat which looks lovely now and its put my mind at ease. She tells me not to worry but i dont know how.

 

[bluegirl74]

I respond to it better these days than I used to. I have a very stressful job which I generally thrive off and use the pressure to my advantage. Sometimes though it can get too much and stress kicks in. I tend to go quiet and a bit into my shell and have trouble sleeping with it. If I get off to sleep its only for an hour or two and then awake all night mulling things over. What Ive learned to is put things into perspective and take some time out to get my head straight, even if its just a couple of days or a weekend, and spend time with friends doing fun stuff and whatever I want to do. It tends to make me realise what is more important. I get as much exercise as I can to help ease the pressure and that helps me to sleep as well. Then, I tackle whatever the issues that are stressing me head on and get stuck straight into them.

great post, i could have written it myself.

 

[1961_vintage]

I channel the energy generated by stress into finding solutions. Nothing else works for me, especially avoidance techniques such as booze. Knowing this, I throw everything I've got into analysing and understanding the cause and then take huge pleasure in taking the necessary actions. Problem solved, source of stress removed.

 

[bobmcfc]

How odd that you can type on this forum and say that it's time to talk to your wife. I know exactly what you mean though we are like a family on here and often share shit before we do with our significant others

I mean look at us, so many personas on this forum but deep down we are very sensitive souls with the same issues as everyone else. This place is an outlet for all our everyday shit sometimes

People generally seem less judgmental on here, or maybe the judgmental ones stay silent on such topics. I lost so called 'friends' a long time ago when I revealed my lowest point. It certainly makes you pick your friends carefully once that happens. I like the anonymity of the web (though I've met 20 forum members in real life it's only brief)

I think sometimes it might be easier to share things with people who don't know you as well. It's like there are no strings and you can care less about what they think but you will still get the real, unbiased concern and real advice that you wouldn't get from people who are too close (if you get what I mean)

 

[Tuearts right boot]

Was a bit of a worrier myself and was going out with a girl from Dublin and in true Irish style she told me, if you worry you die and if you don't worry you still die, so don't worry. Irish logic at its best but it worked for me.

 

[dronefromsector7g]

I mean look at us, so many personas on this forum but deep down we are very sensitive souls with the same issues as everyone else. This place is an outlet for all our everyday shit sometimes

People generally seem less judgmental on here, or maybe the judgmental ones stay silent on such topics. I lost so called 'friends' a long time ago when I revealed my lowest point. It certainly makes you pick your friends carefully once that happens. I like the anonymity of the web (though I've met 20 forum members in real life it's only brief)

I think sometimes it might be easier to share things with people who don't know you as well. It's like there are no strings and you can care less about what they think but you will still get the real, unbiased concern and real advice that you wouldn't get from people who are too close (if you get what I mean)

There are members of my own family who know less about my 'dark side' than folks on here. I've opened up to work mates now too and I think being on here helped me in that respect, like the taps were turned on gradually. Now I embrace my situation and most of my jokey posting on here is done for a reason :-)