Looks or Personality?

[AntiUnited]

if I look at it like that, I can't see myself being happy with the current girlfriend. in my eyes shes stunning but maybe I should just grow a pair and end it. she won't break up with me because she knows how easy she has it, I treat her like no one ever will. I bought her a £175 marc Jacobs purse for Christmas as well as many other presents like pandora and clothes etc over the years and also everytime we go out I pay. I just keep thinking that we could be happy together and that's what's keeping me with her. It's annoying cos I really don't know what to do. I love my girlfriend to bits but I'm fed up of being treated like something on the bottom of her shoe

A salutary tale.

Not long ago, when I got married, I rented out my house. It was done through an agency eventually but I did offer it around at work. One person that viewed it, with her female friend, was a good looking girl from work: flowing blonde locks, blue eyes and very pretty face, fit ass in blue jeans, slim and buxom. The next door neighbour came round after she'd gone, panting and begging to know who she was - and whether she'd be renting the house when he found out why she'd been there.

Fast forward a few years and the dumpy woman with the dowdy straight hair, waddle and pug features was, and remains, unrecognisable as that fit lass.

Also, at the top of our road, a once beautiful girl has gone a similar pug-like way, although this one now has the backend of a hippo.

When it comes to looks, the mother, and father to a lesser extent, is probably the best guide to what the future holds, but personality should most definitely be your primary criterion when considering a long term relationship or marriage.

Personalitys can also change tho, this fit lass might mature into a really nice woman one day

really -_-..

 

[metalblue]

Chuck her

 

[1961_vintage]

Keep the looker - you sound like deep down you might have a penchant for being the thing stuck to the bottom of her shoe.

are you advising to continue to be walked all over? ridiculous!

But it's not so ridiculous when you consider the circumstances Des. Perhaps 1894 has found his place in the world as a giver, with the pleasure that he derives from that outweighing the flashes of shame that he periodically feels when he considers his role as a Taker's lickspittle. Whilst it may not suit those of us with a more defined sense of confidence and self-worth, we should not lose sight of the importance that those of a more submissive and passive nature have in the world. 3 years is a long time - he is clearly still involved for a reason?

 

[2sheikhs]

She's at it mate. If she's going out and spending time with other blokes and then doesn't want to get close to you afterwards. You'd be stirring another mans porridge.
Just say to her, "quick question to you, answer yes or no. Do you want to be with me? Because if you don't, it doesn't matter a fuck to me I'll go right now."

 

[kaz7]

when ive not been sure whether to stay with someone i ask myself how i would feel if i never saw them again and that gives me the answer.stay with who makes you the happiest

 

[Chris in London]

Have you actually told her the way she is making you feel?

If not, she might not know and she might care.

If you have, you have three options: carry on like this indefinitely and be walked over for the rest of your life.

Or carry on like this until she decides that she has actually had enough of walking all over you and sacks you for what she sees as a better prospect.

Or carry on like this until you decide you have had enough, and generally be miserable in the meantime.

I'd get rid now personally.

 

[Ammy]

Why don't you try being single for a while and try and work out what you want from a relationship before jumping into another?

Oh and btw, just because this girl has a lot of male friends does not mean she is sleeping with them. I realise that 'When Harry met Sally' put up an excellently argued hypothesis that men and women can't be platonic friends...but a lot of us think that's bullshit

 

[2sheikhs]

Why don't you try being single for a while and try and work out what you want from a relationship before jumping into another?

Oh and btw, just because this girl has a lot of male friends does not mean she is sleeping with them. I realise that 'When Harry met Sally' put up an excellently argued hypothesis that men and women can't be platonic friends...but a lot of us think that's bullshit

They can, until drink is involved.

 

[1961_vintage]

Very good advice Ammy......

Why don't you try being single for a while and try and work out what you want from a relationship before jumping into another?

Not so sure about this though......

men and women can't be platonic friends...but a lot of us think that's bullshit

Such a relationship almost always develops into feelings that find their outlet in sex and/or love.

 

[lust overlord]

The op knows what he should/wants to do.Just has to bite the bullet and possibly suffer a bit of short term pain for long term gain.
Have the chat,listen to what she has to say,(you probably won't like it)and make a decision.Man up!