Spot on.
Common courtesy and manners do not exist for many,instead replaced by arrogance,selfishness and greed.
Being rude,ignorant or impolite are things guaranteed to see me go from 0-100.
Honestly mate, I’m gobsmacked sometimes by the lack of general courtesy and manners by some, often when I open doors for people they just waltz through it, when they do I say ‘thank you’, sometimes they get it and say “ oh, thank you” which is fair enough, mind elsewhere for whatever reason etc, others mostly go “uh” and look at me puzzled.
On the flip side though, about a month ago, I was walking on the pavement through one of my local car parks, a young girl with a pram some 15 or so metres away was walking towards me, there was no way both of us were getting through so I walked back into the car park so I didn’t cause her any problems, I thought , I wonder if it’s even registered with her what I’d just done, anyway as we drew level she actually said to me “excuse me, but thanks very much for that”, I was genuinely shocked and just replied “my pleasure and nice to see someone with some manners for once”.
Some of it is subjective though. I reckon some people will see me as rude. My language is sometimes inconsiderate of others. I can see some people finding that rude. My self-confidence may come across as rude to some as well.
I do think I’m well mannered overall, though. Always say please and thank you. Always thank anyone who has provided me with a service. Waiter, bus driver, taxi driver, train attendant. They are often poorly paid to do difficult jobs and deserve to be respected.
Can’t stand inconsiderate drivers. They are about the only thing in this world that makes me remotely angry.
So certain things are important to me, and piss me off, but that doesn’t make them any more or less rude than me swearing. How rude something is, is often simply down to the recipient’s perception.
You’re right mate, in that sometimes there’s a subjective element to it in some situations, but I’m talking about basic courtesy and manners here, along with teaching your kids ‘right from wrong’, for me, teaching them good manners and to be polite and courteous (until someone gives you a reason not to be) is one of the biggest things that go to helping them become decent members of society, I can’t imagine you’ve brought ‘C’ up to be any different.
Ps, every fucker finds inconsiderate drivers irritating to some degree don’t they ;-).