The "let's talk" thread

Feeling low tonight. I felt like this last Monday too.

Then, it was seeing it finally dawn on most people I know, esp my Mrs who suddenly realised what I'd been saying was actually happening. I usually enjoy being right. I didn't last Monday and had an, obviously alcohol-induced, blub. Or there was dust in the air, or summat.

The reason for tonight's low is a combination of seeing the numbers (I can't watch the clips from hospitals, my imagination and the numbers are enough), together with the impromptu Bank Holiday Blitz Spirit in Britain, which unfortunately doesn't surprise me at all, yet still depresses the fuck out of me.

Add to that, our 7 year old getting a high temp and cough yesterday, meaning, although it's probably just "a cold", we can't take any chances and are self-isolating for 14 days. Wish she hadn't been in school last week, and if she's got it in school then god knows how many of them have?! But it's just "a cold" right?

Over reaction? Isn't it what we all, if we can, should be doing anyway?


She's fine btw, once the Calpol kicks in. I don't worry for her health, but I worry for her future. It wasn't meant to be like this. How do you explain it?

Humans are shit. Now there's a plague and you can't see your friends, cousins, grandparents, or anyone, for a while...

Thanks Dad.
 
1.618034 said:
Now there's a plague and you can't see your friends, cousins, grandparents, or anyone, for a while...
Click to expand...

I'm not a huge socializer usually, but there are some people I really, really enjoy to be with. And it's starting to kick in that II might not see them for long time. Shit feeling. Gets beaten only by the fact that my parents are with me now (80 and 76) and my wife is in all risk categories, except the age, so I have to worry about three of them and despite them not being in risk by stats, I still worry about my 3 kids. Fucking virus, I could really do without this.
 
My anxiety is the absolute crippler at the moment. The depression is being held at bay with medication, but I can’t face going out. The mass lockdown is a blessing really because having to constantly decline social invitations or just seeing the photos on Facebook would be gutting.

I’ve booked my final leg of Turin - Rome - Berlin in June to give me something to look forwards to. If we’re allowed to go over then I will if I feel able to. Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, I thought I was taking life’s stresses in my stride. I wasn’t.
 
Fucking hell - I am not afraid to say I am finding this hard like I am sure we all are. The impact on mental health will be huge. Running a business and seeing sites stopped and hard working lads who can’t work is horrific. Been juggling many balls since it all kicked off. Not seeing city impacts my wellbeing as pathetic as that sounds or my dad who is driving me insane going out too often. Kids at their mums for now while I juggle work and I am fucking asthmatic and normal flu nearly did me in two years ago and I felt like I was drowning. If I get this I am fucked. Mrs ww is being surprisingly ok but still the Toughest spell of my life this last few weeks and I have had a few ups and downs in the past with the ladies as you all well know. Everyone is in the same boat I know and many far worse off than me I know but I am trying to help a few people in the shit and be kind.

I will fucking celebrate like a mad man when this is over. Stay safe everyone!! Let’s hope in a few weeks the picture is very different!
 
Last edited by a moderator:
worsleyweb said:
Fucking hell - I am not afraid to say I am finding this hard like I am sure we all are. The impact on mental health will be huge. Running a business and seeing sites stopped and hard working lads who can’t work is horrific. Been juggling many balls since it all kicked off. Not seeing city impacts my wellbeing as pathetic as that sounds or my dad who is driving me insane going out too often. Kids at their mums for now while I juggle work and I am fucking asthmatic and normal flu nearly did me in two years ago and I felt like I was drowning. If I get this I am fucked. Mrs ww is being surprisingly ok but still the Toughest spell of my life this last few weeks and I have had a few ups and downs in the past with the ladies as you all well know. Everyone is in the same boat I know and Many many far worse off than me I know but I am trying to help a few people in the shit and be kind.

I will fucking celebrate like a mad man when this is over. Stay safe everyone!! Let’s hope in a few weeks the picture is very different!
Click to expand...

It’s horrible for many isn’t it mate. You’ll come through this before you know it but look after yourself especially with your asthma.

All this coincided for me with moving out if the family home and about to embark on a new career change. I’d seen a glimmer of hope a couple of weeks ago then it all cane crashing down. I’ll be honest...I’d much prefer isolated with the family (which of course can be intolerable after an amount of time) than alone in the flat.
I’ve not slept properly since moving out...I look after my heath but look like a wreck of k ok late...like an emaciated panda. If I come trough all this I’ll be a much stronger character thats for fucking sure.

good luck mate...keep on talking (I’ve been busy WhatsApping in quieter moments).
 
Personal notes:-

I am safe, well, and well isolated compared to most city/town dwellers. I couldn't really be any safer, I am only seeing the mrs and that's it.

My family, friends and loved ones are safe for now.

I still have a job where I can work safely from home and don't have to risk my wellbeing like many others are doing for us.

But, I have a rising feeling in my chest every morning when I wake up. I have no idea when i'm going to see my mum, dad or sister. We have video calls but it's not quite the same in my opinion. This is very very difficult for somebody who worried too much about family wellbeing before there was a pandemic.

I have it good, I know. But my head is all over the place until it's later in the day and I get to go to bed and have a few hours break from it all.
 
Spent yesterday in bed. Slept and slept and slept. Almost no internet. Just checked the BBC a couple of times. Feel a bit better for it, maybe?
 
It's really worrying the effect that this will have on the nation's mental health. So many people in need of support at this moment may not be able to access it.

Like others have mentioned above, my anxiety levels are sky high at the moment too. Worried about my parents, my kids, my work. Missing friends, football, and normal life. I have about a ten second window when I first wake up when everything seems OK before the grim realisation that it's actually not kicks in. The tedious monotony of the days is already kicking in, and it's pretty bleak that this is how it'll be for the foreseeable future.

At least I have my family around me though. Really feel for those who are on their own at the moment, must be incredibly difficult.
 
I have to admit that I feel an inner peace and calmness without the football being on, which is really strange to me as I love my football with a passion but I can honestly say that I'm not missing it one bit, if anything it's nice not having the bullshit and hype fed to me.

I was feeling the rage having to endure every media outlet ramming Liverpool* down our throats at every given opportunity, I've not watched football of any description, listened to any phone in or read a paper since the ban came in and I feel really chilled.

Maybe I don't need football in my life as much as I thought I did.
 
Ric said:
It's really worrying the effect that this will have on the nation's mental health. So many people in need of support at this moment may not be able to access it.

Like others have mentioned above, my anxiety levels are sky high at the moment too. Worried about my parents, my kids, my work. Missing friends, football, and normal life. I have about a ten second window when I first wake up when everything seems OK before the grim realisation that it's actually not kicks in. The tedious monotony of the days is already kicking in, and it's pretty bleak that this is how it'll be for the foreseeable future.

At least I have my family around me though. Really feel for those who are on their own at the moment, must be incredibly difficult.
Click to expand...

The toll it'll take on the kids is something we might not realise fully for 10+ years.

My aunt told me one of my cousins (8 y/o) is just refusing to leave the house because he's scared of getting the virus, won't even walk the dog or play outside and apparently it's not that rare, quite a few of the other kids in his school are similarly scared.

It could shape a generation if it goes on for 6 months. If nothing else then their political beliefs and attitude to the NHS will surely be influenced.
 
Got really down last week but feel a lot better this week, would love to lock me the wife and son in the house and isolate, unfortunately me and the wife both have to go out to work. I felt real fear last week going to work but that has subsided like everybody else just want some normality back.
 
I already had depression and anxiety before this pandemic but it’s getting really bad. At random points each day, I’m literally feeling like death and just needing to get in to bed and lie there with the covers over my head. I’ve been unable to do anything basic like making a drink until it passes. Even this morning, I took great delight in showering and putting the washing machine on (anything to keep positive) before I just had to go back to my room. I’ve transferred to the sofa with my comfort blanket.

This has been going on for too long. For a year, I’ve been rarely, if ever, happy. I’ve taken myself places, treated myself to nice things and had regular nights out with the lads in my local - but nothing has shifted the constant unhappiness. Our crew is about ten strong and all I’ve ever felt is alone when out socially of a weekend.

I will get through this and come out stronger at the end. I’m just having to take each day as it comes. This isn’t a good time to have problems with your mental health.
 
peoffrey said:
I already had depression and anxiety before this pandemic but it’s getting really bad. At random points each day, I’m literally feeling like death and just needing to get in to bed and lie there with the covers over my head. I’ve been unable to do anything basic like making a drink until it passes. Even this morning, I took great delight in showering and putting the washing machine on (anything to keep positive) before I just had to go back to my room. I’ve transferred to the sofa with my comfort blanket.

This has been going on for too long. For a year, I’ve been rarely, if ever, happy. I’ve taken myself places, treated myself to nice things and had regular nights out with the lads in my local - but nothing has shifted the constant unhappiness. Our crew is about ten strong and all I’ve ever felt is alone when out socially of a weekend.

I will get through this and come out stronger at the end. I’m just having to take each day as it comes. This isn’t a good time to have problems with your mental health.
Click to expand...

Day by day is the only way at the minute mate. Keep at it, it's a gradual process. Keep posting.
 
My counciling for depression has been knocked on the head understandably, I was offered it over the phone but with a house full is not practical.
On that front I am lucky as I dont feel to bad, it's more the boredom of being inside for 9 days now. As someone who has always worked outside i find it hard to be indoors anyway.
I am abit worried about going out again to the shops as someone who didnt panic buy we are running low , but I dont know if I can keep calm about having to queue for about an hour , than not be able to get half the stuff we need. I feel angry that I need to do this just for a normal weekly shop. My son tried to do a shop the other day the queue was long and he couldnt get much anyway. I feel very anxious about doing this and abit scared.
The more I stay in the house the less I want to go out but I feel bored , I guess I cant win. I just want to jump in my mx5 drop the roof and go into the countryside to blow the cobwebs away. But we cant ! I never thought this would be how life would be even in short term.
We are fine in the house very lucky that their has bee a no rows or even raised voices, which is a god send !. We all have our own space when we need it and at least we have a small garden I really feel for families without a garden. My auntie has to self isolate for 12 weeks on her own on the 4th floor in a small flat.
I might go and sit in my mx5 and do abit of cleaning ...

Take care and stay safe everyone....
 
Last edited:
give it to gordon said:
My counciling for depression has been knocked on the head understandably, I was offered it over the phone but with a house full is not practical.
On that front I am lucky as I dont feel to bad, it's more the boredom of being inside for 9 days now. As someone who has always worked outside i find it hard to be indoors anyway.
I am abit worried about going out again to the shops as someone who didnt panic buy we are running low , but I dont know if I can keep calm about having to queue for about an hour , than not be able to get half the stuff we need. I feel angry that I need to do this just for a normal weekly shop. My son tried to do a shop the other day the queue was long and he couldnt get much anyway. I feel very anxious about doing this and abit scared.
The more I stay in the house the less I want to go out but I feel bored , I guess I cant win. I just want to jump in my mx5 drop the roof and go into the countryside to blow the cobwebs away. But we cant ! I never thought this would be how life would be even in short term.
We are fine in the house very lucky that their has bee a no rows or even raised voices, which is a god send !. We all have our own space when we need it and at least we have a small garden I really feel for families without a garden. My auntie has to self isolate for 12 weeks on her own on the 4th floor in a small flat.
I might go and sit in my mx5 and do abit of cleaning ...

Take care and stay safe everyone....
Click to expand...
Hey pal all of us are only pm away from each other on here, sometimes it's good to vent and get everything out.
My door is open if ever you want to chew the fat as I'm sure a lot of posters on here will have their doors open too.
Keep the faith mate.
 
Depressed. Anxious. Stressed. Furloughed. Lockdown. When it rains it pours, hey?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Unread Posts

Don't have an account? Register now and see fewer ads!

SIGN UP
Back
Top