Ste1969
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My heart goes out to you blue, try and stay strong for the family x
RIP Vicky x
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RIP Vicky x
Bigga
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I'm going to pop this here. I could in the 'Depression' thread and may again, but I think this is important.
There's a rise of loneliness in young males where they are at the mercy of media driven feminism that, sometimes, creates 'incels' through no fault of their own, but circumstance; not rich enough, not smart enough, not buff enough, not handsome enough, not tall enough, etc.
Now, I'm no fan of Peterson for quite a few reasons (and he somewhat touches on that), but some real tangible aspects of his work are impressive.
It's ironic, though, he's interviewed by the awful, sluggish, loathsome, 'intellectual' oaf that is Morgan that was part of the problem in belittling the very kind of young men Peterson has tried to help...
Here's the ending of the interview:
There's a rise of loneliness in young males where they are at the mercy of media driven feminism that, sometimes, creates 'incels' through no fault of their own, but circumstance; not rich enough, not smart enough, not buff enough, not handsome enough, not tall enough, etc.
Now, I'm no fan of Peterson for quite a few reasons (and he somewhat touches on that), but some real tangible aspects of his work are impressive.
It's ironic, though, he's interviewed by the awful, sluggish, loathsome, 'intellectual' oaf that is Morgan that was part of the problem in belittling the very kind of young men Peterson has tried to help...
Here's the ending of the interview:
SWPISHOME
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If you ever want to talk PM me, Don't go through it on your own. Glad you feel a bit better today, Baby steps fella.Day one of getting myself sorted was yesterday. Things have changed over the last few months and I don't know why. I feel a bit better today but it's going to be a long road.
SWPISHOME
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That's heartbreaking! Really sorry for your loss and coldonices to the family. Poor girl feeling so bad take her own life it's truly awful.My cousin found out yesterday that her daughter (only child) took her life on Tuesday. She was only 33 leaving 2 children aged 9 and 11. I took my cuz to the mortuary at Oldham Royal Infirmary yesterday and was a heavy moment to say the least.
I stayed at hers last night to be there for her and she's distraught with grief. I've just spoken to her GP who is prescribing 3 diazepam per day to help calm her nerves and arranging counseling help.
So sad.
RIP Vicky x
R.I.P.
abu13
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Just wanted to bump this thread so people remember it is there if needed.
I am seeing people struggling more than ever with what is going on at the moment and we need to support each other more than ever now. This next 12 months are going to be very difficult and mental health will be impacted.
I am seeing people struggling more than ever with what is going on at the moment and we need to support each other more than ever now. This next 12 months are going to be very difficult and mental health will be impacted.
kaz7
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My anxiety is through the roof , i was steady prior to covid but then when i was really sick with it after getting it at wembley trip i got paranoid and scared of getting it again , anxiety soared and hasnt stopped , fight or flight mode constantly
I’m really fucking struggling at the moment and I’m at a loss what to do about it. I have no interest in anything at all; music, films, football, nothing excites or interests me.
I try to be realistic and say to myself that in the last 2 years I’ve lost my marriage, my home, my pets, had a big drink problem (now beaten thankfully), moved house 3 times, had Covid twice and now have long Covid and degeneration of the spine which has left me in constant pain, and then in September I lost my dad.
All that when I look at it typed out should be enough to knock most people on their backside but I feel guilty and actually hate myself because I just can’t lift myself up and get on with life.
I recently went back to work after my dad passed but I just don’t want to be there, and when I come home I don’t want to be here either! All I want to do is go to bed and sleep.
My gp has put me on a new medication that’s supposed to help with both chronic pain and depression but it takes a couple of months to start working apparently, and I’m on the waiting list for nerve block injections, but until then I have to wear a collar and back brace to straighten my spine and ease the swelling on the nerves. I’m limited what I can actually do at work and that’s causing bad feeling with colleagues.
The last thing I want to do is drag my girlfriend down; she’s been absolutely fantastic since I met her but I know she’s seeing the change in me.
How the hell can I lift my spirits and get out of this hole I’m in?
I try to be realistic and say to myself that in the last 2 years I’ve lost my marriage, my home, my pets, had a big drink problem (now beaten thankfully), moved house 3 times, had Covid twice and now have long Covid and degeneration of the spine which has left me in constant pain, and then in September I lost my dad.
All that when I look at it typed out should be enough to knock most people on their backside but I feel guilty and actually hate myself because I just can’t lift myself up and get on with life.
I recently went back to work after my dad passed but I just don’t want to be there, and when I come home I don’t want to be here either! All I want to do is go to bed and sleep.
My gp has put me on a new medication that’s supposed to help with both chronic pain and depression but it takes a couple of months to start working apparently, and I’m on the waiting list for nerve block injections, but until then I have to wear a collar and back brace to straighten my spine and ease the swelling on the nerves. I’m limited what I can actually do at work and that’s causing bad feeling with colleagues.
The last thing I want to do is drag my girlfriend down; she’s been absolutely fantastic since I met her but I know she’s seeing the change in me.
How the hell can I lift my spirits and get out of this hole I’m in?
give it to gordon
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Mate you have been through alot, stop being so hard on yourself.
Keep talking to your gf dont block her out she sounds like a sound lass.
Medication does take time to work be patient, things will get better.
Set your self small targets with the help of your gf, doesnt matter how small or silly they seem. Dont be afraid to show your feelings if you want a good cry have one. Cuddling or hold hands with your gf its sounds soft I know but it helps.
Do you work colleagues know what's going in your life ? If they dont that might explain they feelings or is it you thinking theres bad feelings ? .
I have always told my work colleagues what's going on with me, I dont care that they know I'm on antidepressants. I told them they take sometime before they start to work.
Sometimes just putting your thoughts on helps, this place really help me mate. Things will get better
Keep talking to your gf dont block her out she sounds like a sound lass.
Medication does take time to work be patient, things will get better.
Set your self small targets with the help of your gf, doesnt matter how small or silly they seem. Dont be afraid to show your feelings if you want a good cry have one. Cuddling or hold hands with your gf its sounds soft I know but it helps.
Do you work colleagues know what's going in your life ? If they dont that might explain they feelings or is it you thinking theres bad feelings ? .
I have always told my work colleagues what's going on with me, I dont care that they know I'm on antidepressants. I told them they take sometime before they start to work.
Sometimes just putting your thoughts on helps, this place really help me mate. Things will get better
Cheers bud, I really appreciate that.Mate you have been through alot, stop being so hard on yourself.
Keep talking to your gf dont block her out she sounds like a sound lass.
Medication does take time to work be patient, things will get better.
Set your self small targets with the help of your gf, doesnt matter how small or silly they seem. Dont be afraid to show your feelings if you want a good cry have one. Cuddling or hold hands with your gf its sounds soft I know but it helps.
Do you work colleagues know what's going in your life ? If they dont that might explain they feelings or is it you thinking theres bad feelings ? .
I have always told my work colleagues what's going on with me, I dont care that they know I'm on antidepressants. I told them they take sometime before they start to work.
Sometimes just putting your thoughts on helps, this place really help me mate. Things will get better
abu13
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Wow that is a lot you have had to deal with, i'm not surprised you have struggled. Try to remember that you have found the strength to get through this so far and things will change in time. It's good you have your GF and i'd encourage you to keep talking, it really does help. Is there a HR department at work that you could talk to? many companies now have a much better approach to mental health issues and may be able to help. Regarding the medication, yes it will take time but it's really positive you have taken the steps to get the help needed.I’m really fucking struggling at the moment and I’m at a loss what to do about it. I have no interest in anything at all; music, films, football, nothing excites or interests me.
I try to be realistic and say to myself that in the last 2 years I’ve lost my marriage, my home, my pets, had a big drink problem (now beaten thankfully), moved house 3 times, had Covid twice and now have long Covid and degeneration of the spine which has left me in constant pain, and then in September I lost my dad.
All that when I look at it typed out should be enough to knock most people on their backside but I feel guilty and actually hate myself because I just can’t lift myself up and get on with life.
I recently went back to work after my dad passed but I just don’t want to be there, and when I come home I don’t want to be here either! All I want to do is go to bed and sleep.
My gp has put me on a new medication that’s supposed to help with both chronic pain and depression but it takes a couple of months to start working apparently, and I’m on the waiting list for nerve block injections, but until then I have to wear a collar and back brace to straighten my spine and ease the swelling on the nerves. I’m limited what I can actually do at work and that’s causing bad feeling with colleagues.
The last thing I want to do is drag my girlfriend down; she’s been absolutely fantastic since I met her but I know she’s seeing the change in me.
How the hell can I lift my spirits and get out of this hole I’m in?
Try not to feel guilty and believe me you are not on your own, there are so many people out there who are really struggling, Just remember how strong you really are, you will get through this.
In time you will look back on this period and realise just how awesome you really are
I work in the NHS so yes we have a really good occupational health department; they’re helping me with the spine problem and are very supportive. They do have counselling available but the waiting list is seriously long so I’ve just got to wait my turn.Wow that is a lot you have had to deal with, i'm not surprised you have struggled. Try to remember that you have found the strength to get through this so far and things will change in time. It's good you have your GF and i'd encourage you to keep talking, it really does help. Is there a HR department at work that you could talk to? many companies now have a much better approach to mental health issues and may be able to help. Regarding the medication, yes it will take time but it's really positive you have taken the steps to get the help needed.
Try not to feel guilty and believe me you are not on your own, there are so many people out there who are really struggling, Just remember how strong you really are, you will get through this.
In time you will look back on this period and realise just how awesome you really are
I wish you well and hope everyday you start feeling better hope the blues gave you a lift today all the very best to youI’m really fucking struggling at the moment and I’m at a loss what to do about it. I have no interest in anything at all; music, films, football, nothing excites or interests me.
I try to be realistic and say to myself that in the last 2 years I’ve lost my marriage, my home, my pets, had a big drink problem (now beaten thankfully), moved house 3 times, had Covid twice and now have long Covid and degeneration of the spine which has left me in constant pain, and then in September I lost my dad.
All that when I look at it typed out should be enough to knock most people on their backside but I feel guilty and actually hate myself because I just can’t lift myself up and get on with life.
I recently went back to work after my dad passed but I just don’t want to be there, and when I come home I don’t want to be here either! All I want to do is go to bed and sleep.
My gp has put me on a new medication that’s supposed to help with both chronic pain and depression but it takes a couple of months to start working apparently, and I’m on the waiting list for nerve block injections, but until then I have to wear a collar and back brace to straighten my spine and ease the swelling on the nerves. I’m limited what I can actually do at work and that’s causing bad feeling with colleagues.
The last thing I want to do is drag my girlfriend down; she’s been absolutely fantastic since I met her but I know she’s seeing the change in me.
How the hell can I lift my spirits and get out of this hole I’m in?
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Had some shit family news on Thursday. I've been upset, sad and heartbroken but can't mope about. Being at the game and being around sound blues took my mind off things. I love this club x
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It’s quite humbling reading some of these posts. I really hope the posters who have been brave enough to share get the help they need and some peace of mind and happiness soon.
I never suffered any mental health issues until a few years ago. Hit me like a tonne of bricks to be honest and was so scared it was untrue.
Basically something happend to me in my childhood that i have never really spoken about apart from my wife and my friend. Then my wife asked me a few questions as she was watching a programme and said that what she was watching had happend to me. Sort of set me off a bit but then I work in London and well I don’t want to get to much into it but the Westminster bridge attack happened and I was there.
However it took
A while for all this to set in. I went to see a therapist etc but to be honest didn’t really work.
I still struggle a bit now and to be honest I don’t think I will ever be what I used to be like. It makes me a bit sad but you have to carry on and go day by day.
What I’m trying to say in an arse about way is that it’s common to have issues and it’s ok to be frightened and scared. However cliche as it sounds it is good to talk. Sometimes it even helps if you don’t know that person. Also it’s not good to bottle it up or hide away.
If anyone does feel in a hole or wants a chat or just a moan I’m happy to listen. Sometimes just getting crap off your chest can help.
Anyways I hope and pray the posters that are struggling are ok and that they can find some rest and some peace of mind.
Take care all.
I never suffered any mental health issues until a few years ago. Hit me like a tonne of bricks to be honest and was so scared it was untrue.
Basically something happend to me in my childhood that i have never really spoken about apart from my wife and my friend. Then my wife asked me a few questions as she was watching a programme and said that what she was watching had happend to me. Sort of set me off a bit but then I work in London and well I don’t want to get to much into it but the Westminster bridge attack happened and I was there.
However it took
A while for all this to set in. I went to see a therapist etc but to be honest didn’t really work.
I still struggle a bit now and to be honest I don’t think I will ever be what I used to be like. It makes me a bit sad but you have to carry on and go day by day.
What I’m trying to say in an arse about way is that it’s common to have issues and it’s ok to be frightened and scared. However cliche as it sounds it is good to talk. Sometimes it even helps if you don’t know that person. Also it’s not good to bottle it up or hide away.
If anyone does feel in a hole or wants a chat or just a moan I’m happy to listen. Sometimes just getting crap off your chest can help.
Anyways I hope and pray the posters that are struggling are ok and that they can find some rest and some peace of mind.
Take care all.
Nebuchadnezzar
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Bumping to bring this one back, this was a great resource when it was active.
Turning PMs on too.
Turning PMs on too.
Just a let off of … steam? No, probably frustration and tiredness.
So… I had a 2 year debilitating illness , just after getting Mrs JASR back from being away for 4 months, MRs then had 2 years of attempting to deal with PTSD, leading into covid times, that led her to early retirement, and no chance of working or attempting anything difficult (eg form filling) ever again.
‘Child’ 3 had a complete breakdown of their (best of the 4) ability to function.
Now diagnosed with severe anxiety , after getting through severe depression, adhd. Can’t currently leave Ex’s (no issues) house, which has caused me to write this post, as I tried to pick them up for Christmas, but they couldn’t get out the door, though they tried really hard, heartbreaking.
‘child’ 2 now diagnosed with adhd but doing reasonably ok, but suffering serious self doubt still.
‘Child’ 4 now diagnosed with adhd and had a completely crap set of ‘friends’ that dragged them down further, possibly rebuilding life a bit now, having got away a bit, sadly not here for Christmas, but that’s actually probably a good thing to be away from ‘friends’.
MIL body decided to faint the day before a taxi was bringing them from afar to here for Christmas (can’t drive anymore - anxiety , and me & Mrs JASR have one of these hideous infections at the moment), completely battered against a kerb and even more incapable of doing anything (suffered for years with anxiety and self worth).
Mother , starting to lose marbles , and I find that hard to deal with, as mentioned many times in here - Alzheimer’s is a bitch.
‘Child’ 1, doing fine, but is far far away for Christmas, which is the 1st time they are away at this time, and for a long time (9 months).
I’m tired.
Thanks for reading
So… I had a 2 year debilitating illness , just after getting Mrs JASR back from being away for 4 months, MRs then had 2 years of attempting to deal with PTSD, leading into covid times, that led her to early retirement, and no chance of working or attempting anything difficult (eg form filling) ever again.
‘Child’ 3 had a complete breakdown of their (best of the 4) ability to function.
Now diagnosed with severe anxiety , after getting through severe depression, adhd. Can’t currently leave Ex’s (no issues) house, which has caused me to write this post, as I tried to pick them up for Christmas, but they couldn’t get out the door, though they tried really hard, heartbreaking.
‘child’ 2 now diagnosed with adhd but doing reasonably ok, but suffering serious self doubt still.
‘Child’ 4 now diagnosed with adhd and had a completely crap set of ‘friends’ that dragged them down further, possibly rebuilding life a bit now, having got away a bit, sadly not here for Christmas, but that’s actually probably a good thing to be away from ‘friends’.
MIL body decided to faint the day before a taxi was bringing them from afar to here for Christmas (can’t drive anymore - anxiety , and me & Mrs JASR have one of these hideous infections at the moment), completely battered against a kerb and even more incapable of doing anything (suffered for years with anxiety and self worth).
Mother , starting to lose marbles , and I find that hard to deal with, as mentioned many times in here - Alzheimer’s is a bitch.
‘Child’ 1, doing fine, but is far far away for Christmas, which is the 1st time they are away at this time, and for a long time (9 months).
I’m tired.
Thanks for reading
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BlueMoonRisin’
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Bump.
@Lavinda Past No pal, am the saddest thing on BM, or I feel like I am.
My acute tinnitus has been driving me nuts lately and I feel really low right now. Anxiety has kicked in bad and I'm depressed more than I have been in ages. I don't think my excessive drinking and smoking is doing me any favours, especially having been recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I'm waiting to see a doctor to discuss it. I feel tired and getting blurred vision on and off. My sleeping is up the wall and I'm not looking after myself. I'm unemployed and can't work regular hours and hold down a job working regular hours and feel in despair. Wednesday and Thursday night i didn't sleep a wink till Friday night and my seretone spirit level of wellbeing balance is well off bubble.
Some days I turn my phone off so I don't see texts or calls. There's much more than this than I can talk about. Nothing illegal and I'm not being threatened by anyone. Well maybe I am but not in a physical way.
I think i need counselling for for PSTD to try and shift the heavy pressure in my head.
I don't know what else to say except this forum has been keeping my mind off things so I thank you all for making this a good place to be, a special thanks to my real life friends I've met through here. Thanks blues.
@Lavinda Past No pal, am the saddest thing on BM, or I feel like I am.
My acute tinnitus has been driving me nuts lately and I feel really low right now. Anxiety has kicked in bad and I'm depressed more than I have been in ages. I don't think my excessive drinking and smoking is doing me any favours, especially having been recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I'm waiting to see a doctor to discuss it. I feel tired and getting blurred vision on and off. My sleeping is up the wall and I'm not looking after myself. I'm unemployed and can't work regular hours and hold down a job working regular hours and feel in despair. Wednesday and Thursday night i didn't sleep a wink till Friday night and my seretone spirit level of wellbeing balance is well off bubble.
Some days I turn my phone off so I don't see texts or calls. There's much more than this than I can talk about. Nothing illegal and I'm not being threatened by anyone. Well maybe I am but not in a physical way.
I think i need counselling for for PSTD to try and shift the heavy pressure in my head.
I don't know what else to say except this forum has been keeping my mind off things so I thank you all for making this a good place to be, a special thanks to my real life friends I've met through here. Thanks blues.
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Big mals fedora
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Best of luck BMR. Get the help u need, u come across as a top ladBump.
@Lavinda Past No pal, am the saddest thing on BM, or I feel like I am.
My acute tinnitus has been driving me nuts lately and I feel really low right now. Anxiety has kicked in bad and I'm depressed more than I have been in ages. I don't think my excessive drinking and smoking is doing me any favours, especially having been recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I'm waiting to see a doctor to discuss it. I feel tired and getting blurred vision on and off. My sleeping is up the wall and I'm not looking after myself. I'm unemployed and can't work regular hours and hold down a job working regular hours and feel in despair.
Some days I turn my phone off so I don't see texts or calls. There's much more than this than I can talk about. Nothing illegal and I'm not being threatened by anyone. Well maybe I am but not in a physical way.
I think i need counselling for for PSTD to try and shift the heavy pressure in my head.
I don't know what else to say except this forum has been keeping my mind off things so I thank you all for making this a good place to be, a special thanks to my real life friends I've met through here. Thanks blues.
BlueMoonRisin’
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Thank pal. I'm just being honest, maybe too honest but i often mask my inner feelings in the reald world nowadays. I'm a shadow of my former self not enjoying life right now. City are a big help in keeping me going but i have lot's of things to sort out in the next few weeks.Best of luck BMR. Get the help u need, u come across as a top lad
My eldest daughter is a nurse in GTR Manchester schools for vulnerable children and parents and she put me onto a social worker yesterday so I'm hoping i get the help and advice i need. I will beat this rock bottom feeling for the sake of her and her sister, i have to because they're worried about me right now.
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Lavinda Past
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Bump.
@Lavinda Past No pal, am the saddest thing on BM, or I feel like I am.
My acute tinnitus has been driving me nuts lately and I feel really low right now. Anxiety has kicked in bad and I'm depressed more than I have been in ages. I don't think my excessive drinking and smoking is doing me any favours, especially having been recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I'm waiting to see a doctor to discuss it. I feel tired and getting blurred vision on and off. My sleeping is up the wall and I'm not looking after myself. I'm unemployed and can't work regular hours and hold down a job working regular hours and feel in despair.
Some days I turn my phone off so I don't see texts or calls. There's much more than this than I can talk about. Nothing illegal and I'm not being threatened by anyone. Well maybe I am but not in a physical way.
I think i need counselling for for PSTD to try and shift the heavy pressure in my head.
I don't know what else to say except this forum has been keeping my mind off things so I thank you all for making this a good place to be, a special thanks to my real life friends I've met through here. Thanks blues.
Fucking hell mate... that's a nightmare! I'm really glad hear that you've found BM to be a 'safe place' where you can escape for a while.
I think we've all been there, or close to it, at some point in our lives, and I agree that BM - particularly 'Off Topic' - has been a place to find kindred spirits if not friends, who have made the day a little bit more tolerable.
Keep strong my friend, we're all behind you!