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ob said:
Crap week, friend I know at home passed away Thursday, one of my best friends mum in law passed away on Saturday, one of my oldest friends passed away yesterday and my mother in law in care home with Parkinson's and dementia. Hasn't eaten for week now and barely taking any fluids. Told on Sunday by nurse if she doesn't start eating may not last the week as was already weak. Tried feeding her through a straw but she just clenches her teeth so can't get it in. I was giving her sips of apple juice from a teaspoon for hours on Sunday afternoon She been almost constantly on morphine for about 10 days now. It seems like she's just given up and we know she wouldn't want to prolong her life like this.
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So sorry OB she probably lost her appetite, I really feel for her and you. Your Mother in law has you by her side that’s what counts.
 
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I have suffered the past year and half with very bad anxiety and the only advice I can give is 2 things.

1, it is OK to not be ok, my whole life i have never been nervous but once the anxiety hit I simply couldnt function I wanted to run away from work and family and leave everything behind. Share your problem.

2, ask for help. When I was in a bad place I wasn't strong enough to ask for help and on the good days I felt I didn't need help. On the good days you need the good you to ask for the help because its alot easier to speak about on a good day and the you of today needs to help the you of tomorrow
 
I've made a couple of changes:
*Bought some weights. I really hope these will help me kill the excess energy which end up as unbearable demons if not used.
*Stopped sleeping and living in the same room. I absolutely knew this was terrible for mental health but stupidly carried on doing it for months.

I'm still waiting for any kind of contact from the mental health service. I'm tempted to go to the local mental health walk in , a private charity , and discuss my options.
 
Have you got a walk in centre most towns have them, I know there’s a big one in Ashton. The health service are really good at stretching an appointment out. For a start there is no phone number or if there is one you get a recorded message.

The latest announcement after the normal your 28 in the queue, I came across was, “I’m currently not at my desk please leave a message after the tone, or I’m on holiday until the 10th of October.
 
I'm trying to keep more sensible sleeping patterns as I think staying up half the night isn't good.
I am still in a very very bad way and it's getting on for a month since I went to A&E and they've still not contacted me.
 
Kirkstall Blue said:
Have you got a walk in centre most towns have them, I know there’s a big one in Ashton. The health service are really good at stretching an appointment out. For a start there is no phone number or if there is one you get a recorded message.

The latest announcement after the normal your 28 in the queue, I came across was, “I’m currently not at my desk please leave a message after the tone, or I’m on holiday until the 10th of October.
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Ashton has a Mind centre and another walk in place which is another private charity.
I think it also has an addiction recovery counselling place but that doesn't apply to me.
 
PinkFinal said:
I'm trying to keep more sensible sleeping patterns as I think staying up half the night isn't good.
I am still in a very very bad way and it's getting on for a month since I went to A&E and they've still not contacted me.
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Keeping good sleeping patterns is a start and the weight training as well it’s all part of coping with the demons, hope the new tablets helped
 
Been a tough tough week.
The NHS have rung me and told me I probably won't be put on antipsychotics as I'm not psychotic . But I'll be seen by a nurse or psychiatrist 'soon'.
I don't know what to do. Obviously the medication I'm on isn't effective enough so I should probably change it.
Doing weights and going for long walks has limited effect.
The depression is just so so deep , I told the person who rang me that I felt I needed electro convulsive therapy. I genuinely believe that. OK I'm not an expert but I do feel my life is in serious danger to be honest and to be blunt. ECT is given when life is in danger or someone has stopped eating or all other treatments have not succeeded.
 
PinkFinal said:
Been a tough tough week.
The NHS have rung me and told me I probably won't be put on antipsychotics as I'm not psychotic . But I'll be seen by a nurse or psychiatrist 'soon'.
I don't know what to do. Obviously the medication I'm on isn't effective enough so I should probably change it.
Doing weights and going for long walks has limited effect.
The depression is just so so deep , I told the person who rang me that I felt I needed electro convulsive therapy. I genuinely believe that. OK I'm not an expert but I do feel my life is in serious danger to be honest and to be blunt. ECT is given when life is in danger or someone has stopped eating or all other treatments have not succeeded.
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Sorry to hear you’ve had a tough week PF, I don’t know anything about ECT? except it would be a big step you really need to see your GP again. Ring the surgery in the morning and ask for an urgent appointment and there is always the drop in centre in Ashton, the doctors in there can hand out prescriptions:
 
Kirkstall Blue said:
Sorry to hear you’ve had a tough week PF, I don’t know anything about ECT? except it would be a big step you really need to see your GP again. Ring the surgery in the morning and ask for an urgent appointment and there is always the drop in centre in Ashton, the doctors in there can hand out prescriptions:
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Yes ECT is a drastic step no doubt about that but I'm on a high dose of antidepressants and still in this f*****g horrendous situation.
The way I see it is I've got absolutely nothing to lose by having electric shock treatment.
I'd go and see my GP but I struggle terribly to leave the house during the day. I don't know if I have the time to withdraw from one antidepressant and try another I'm in a terrible situation that cannot end quickly enough
 
They've rung me again
I have asked for ECT
As expected they said all other options must be explored first
So here comes another six months of agony during which I either go insane or delete myself or alternatively by some miracle some medication works
 
PinkFinal said:
They've rung me again
I have asked for ECT
As expected they said all other options must be explored first
So here comes another six months of agony during which I either go insane or delete myself or alternatively by some miracle some medication works
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Have they not referred you to a psychiatrist or a counsellor?
 
I've been suffering mentally lately. Proper bouts of Anxiety that I've usually batted off. My dad passed away 7 months ago and i don't feel I've grieved properly for him, I've fell of a cliff emotionally and am ratty, short and blowing my top at the slightest of things when before I was chill.

I'm missing him like you wouldn't believe. Grief is weird. For the previous few months I've coped and managed but this last 2 to 3 weeks I've gone.

I've disconnected from football that is a ded cert. Not been arsed about us losing. Want pep out. I've had a proper 180 in feelings.

I’ve Just got to ride it out.
 
manimanc said:
I've been suffering mentally lately. Proper bouts of Anxiety that I've usually batted off. My dad passed away 7 months ago and i don't feel I've grieved properly for him, I've fell of a cliff emotionally and am ratty, short and blowing my top at the slightest of things when before I was chill.
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My dad died in December 2023 and I believe my current breakdown is linked to that. He was someone I depended on , more than I realised probably , two days after he died someone else I depended on became seriously ill and still hasn't recovered.
 
PinkFinal said:
My dad died in December 2023 and I believe my current breakdown is linked to that. He was someone I depended on , more than I realised probably , two days after he died someone else I depended on became seriously ill and still hasn't recovered.
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I'm just trying to compute that my dad was here for the 51 years of my life and now he isn't. My mother in law passed away nearly 3 months ago and my Mrs took it real bad and I guess in a way it churned everything up again about my dad. But I was close to my mother in law, she always said I was her favourite and there are 3 other son in laws, we always had that bond.

It's been an absolutely awful year, from the 1st of January when my Mrs sisters house flooded and they only returned about 6 weeks ago to all the bereavements and lots of other stuff, it has really stretched me mentally and emotionally.
 
Been struggling with my anxiety all week. Really bad last 3 days. We had work 'away day' Thursday and I had to attend. Spent most of it sitting on my own barely talking, didn't go for drinks after it. Not sure anyone noticed. Been there 17 years and think about 4 out of the 50 attendees been there longer. Just felt so insignificant as if my time and contribution there has gone unnoticed. Wanted to do parkrun today, got up for ready, almost turned for home on way there but I did it as I knew I needed to. Ran it in 34 mins dead but to me just getting to start line was bigger achievement than actually running it.
 
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