Does death scare you?

feedmpenzaandhewillscore said:
When you are a child and you get an understanding of mortality and that you will die that is when it’s scary. It used to scare the shit out of me knowing that me and everyone I cared about will die.

Think as you get older there is more of an acceptance that it will happen and you make your peace with it. No one lives for ever so make it count whilst you are here.
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Same here. When I first learned about mortality as a kid I cried every night for weeks as I imagined an eternity of nothing (like being a rag) but got over that. I’ve been as close to death as you can get but wasn’t that scared at the time.
 
I tried it once for just over three and a half minutes when I had a cardiac arrest, but didn't like it and came back into the land of the living! (Thank you, the ambulance paramedics for your prompt CPR)
Wish I could have done the same for my wife 7 years earlier when she died in my arms - my CPR efforts were unsuccessful.
It's inevitable that I'll die sooner or later (later please, so I can see my granddaughter grow up - she was born the day after my CA) and go the same way as my wife did. Hard on the girls, I know, but I don't want to let them suffer me
having a long, drawn out illness. They've been through enough already.
 
dronefromsector7G said:
Same here. When I first learned about mortality as a kid I cried every night for weeks as I imagined an eternity of nothing (like being a rag) but got over that. I’ve been as close to death as you can get but wasn’t that scared at the time.
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Yep, been close on a number of occasions - luckily I didn't have dependents at the time, so wasn't worried about that aspect.

The focus probably helped me get through, one required complete zen like calm to maximise my chances of survival, another quick, calm, logical thinking in the middle of a the aftermath of a car bomb attack.

The final one, where I drove off the white cliffs of dover, I just had a calm acceptance of the end with the comforting thought that, "Well, here we go...at least my sister loves me..."
Luckily that one was a dream...
 
Jesus H Gabz said:
Bloody ell mate that sounds like me but 10 years ago! I thought no way am I getting to forty unhealthy/overweight & not be able to enjoy my kids, I hit the gym & lost 3 stone, spent every evening & weekend at some kind of sport with the kids. I’d happily live those days again & wouldn’t change a thing. My youngest daughter wanted to be a vet, she’s 19 now & just got her quals from college to go to Uni next year. Unfortunately I’m back to 17st haha :) I’ve had the epiphany & getting back on it, but gonna focus on long term health & happiness (especially the mind) if I could give me old self a bit of advice it would be to give yourself some time to focus on your own health & wellbeing, it doesn’t have to be too much, just a few hours a week
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Sounds very very close. I am losing weight slowly. But need to lose a lot more really. Great to hear she's gone to college and got the qualifications.

I take her every Saturday to football and I'm a coach for her team which I've just started.

Luckily I do take time for me. And there might be more kids to come!
 
Yea very much so. Im 49 so hopefully years of healthy living left.
The thought of going now and leaving a young family behind makes me feel sick.
Ive had cancer before and it turned me into a massive hypochondriac . Left longer and that cancer wouldve killed me. Had another near death experience 30 years ago and although it does make me appreciate life ive felt the shadow of death twice and it was horrible
 
A few year's ago I received a text from an ex apprentice who had worked with me year's earlier. We socialised with the wives, had BBQs etc. It was from his wife, informing me he'd passed away at the weekend. He'd been to a music festival, but decided to go home early, feeling unwell. He walked through the front door followed by his 8 year old son, got to the living room and collapsed. He was dead on the spot. Nothing his wife or the emergency services could do, he was just 50. He also had two early teenage daughters. It left the kids traumatised.
 
Nethermoor said:
Sounds very very close. I am losing weight slowly. But need to lose a lot more really. Great to hear she's gone to college and got the qualifications.

I take her every Saturday to football and I'm a coach for her team which I've just started.

Luckily I do take time for me. And there might be more kids to come!
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Love it, I helped run a few junior teams with the kids in, very rewarding, you’ll have a blast.
Your last two lines are the problem though! One minute I had 1 kid, the next I had four, ‘me time’ was down the swanny :( got em all to a good age (to be a bit selfish) and they’re popping grandkids like gremlins……on the weight loss front, if you feel like you’re doing your bit & not quite getting the results, try a simple herbal fat reducing tablet/metabolism booster, it does get harder to lose the older you get
 
Used to, now it's just inevitable isn't it. Just don't leave with any regrets and make peace with everybody you should. Hopefully it'll be in 40/50 years and I imagine by then my head will be that knackered I'll be just about ready.

See all the places on my list, do all the things I want to do on my list, watch my daughter grow up. I'm good with that
 
I've had a couple of general anesthetics and it's wonderful, one minute lucid the next unconscious.
Fabulous.
That's how I'd like to go, assisted dying surrounded by my wife and kids.
Trouble is, I love them so much I don't want to leave them.
 
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