General / Mental Health Support Thread

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It’s not good enough really ? is it Tameside hospital are you disappointed PF after waiting and hoping for some help. Try emailing the appointment secretary tell her how long you’ve been waiting. They will have an email address once you put it in writing they will see how desperate you are.
 
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If I had the means for a rapid painless exit I'd be gone no doubt about that.

They told me it's a month wait so that'll be almost three months since going to A&E.
 
I’ve been waiting for an appointment from Salford Royal since last October. I rang last January and again in June. So last week I emailed the doctors secretary/senior nurse.
Monday they rang me “wanting to know what they hadn’t done”
Try the email PF tell them the date you went to AE and your desperate, it will give you something to do
 
In light of the recent deaths of Ricky Hatton and Matt beard i see many people who it must be said are talking in good faith saying to people “talk” or call 999 or seek help.

Reading the last few pages here it’s clear that some of the posters on here are talking. They are crying out for help and they are trying everything they can to get the help they deserve.
What more can they do. These people need help at their lowest moments and I know that nhs is on its knees but the current state can’t continue.

The waiting times and jumping through hoops to get appointments and seen is a national scandal when even Just answering a call or sending a message can be an effort.

It seems more and more people are taking their lives and we hear platitudes of talking and getting help. Well not enough is being done and somehow we’ve got to stop people from taking their own lives .
In my job I see it far too much and it breaks me that a human being would want to do that.

Strength and love to anyone on here fighting the good fight . All I can say is that if I came through the other side than trust me anyone can. It wasn’t easy or pleasant but I stuck at it.

If anyone does indeed need to chat please feel free to talk to me. I don’t live in Manchester but I do go to games and if anyone does want to meet or chat I’m here.

Take care everyone and please please stick at it. As hard as it may be
 
Bobby the blue said:
In light of the recent deaths of Ricky Hatton and Matt beard i see many people who it must be said are talking in good faith saying to people “talk” or call 999 or seek help.

Reading the last few pages here it’s clear that some of the posters on here are talking. They are crying out for help and they are trying everything they can to get the help they deserve.
What more can they do. These people need help at their lowest moments and I know that nhs is on its knees but the current state can’t continue.

The waiting times and jumping through hoops to get appointments and seen is a national scandal when even Just answering a call or sending a message can be an effort.

It seems more and more people are taking their lives and we hear platitudes of talking and getting help. Well not enough is being done and somehow we’ve got to stop people from taking their own lives .
In my job I see it far too much and it breaks me that a human being would want to do that.

Strength and love to anyone on here fighting the good fight . All I can say is that if I came through the other side than trust me anyone can. It wasn’t easy or pleasant but I stuck at it.

If anyone does indeed need to chat please feel free to talk to me. I don’t live in Manchester but I do go to games and if anyone does want to meet or chat I’m here.

Take care everyone and please please stick at it. As hard as it may be
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I've suffered a lot mentally in my life through trauma, addiction and other things. I've learnt a lot about the conditions I personally went through, and i believe I owe it to others that are going through the same shit. I believe i can help some people. I think I have already. Not for any credit or anything like that...i just think it's the done thing to do. So, same here...if anyone wants to talk about it, PM me. My brain's a bit fucked with this and that and the right words never come into my head any more, but I can still help, I think.
Or make things worse...it's your gamble ;)
 
Sorry to read about many of you having a hard time at the moment, hugs from me

My recovery is still ongoing, i am so much better in a lot of ways, i havent used a wheelchair for a little while and i can walk a bit in a straight line, for months when i put the bin out just maybe 10 or 12 steps i would end up veering off into the front lawn instead, it was funny in hindsight , also my left arm has a mind of its own and i would be launching my phone and things a lot, it is a really weird thing to get used to

One day i was pouring custard into a bowl and my arm went and i ended up-wearing most of it, i decided that day to laugh rather than cry, it does help, i couldnt do it in the first maybe four months as i had such brain fog i was a bit confused a lot but that is a lot less now

My brain and kidneys, both starved of oxygen are giving me grief, looks like the kidneys are going to be the long term loser in all this. Scans and tests and seeing drs is very much ongoing as is the ptsd, i am still terrified of everything and wondering when the next thing is going to trigger the anaphylaxis off, i wasnt allergic to penicillin till i was so i worry about something else doing the same, the shrink says it is normal to feel like this and it is just a time thing and assures me this fear will lessen eventually, what happened to me was very rare and i need to trust it wont happen again

Everyone has been so kind and i cant love the people who have cared for me any more than i do already do, i understand how frustrating and slow the nhs care can be but my god when you really need them they are there for you

Much love xx
 
Went to a gig last night and ended up in a moshpit due to people behind me pushing and slamming into each other
I felt great afterwards or great by my standards
I got a glimpse of how I felt before the depression, a cruel free sample of what I'm denied
Struggled to get up today and I'm back in my usual mindset pretty much :(
 
Nebuchadnezzar said:
7 months into parenting my first and highly likely only son. I can say this with conviction as he was an IVF child and took 8 years to achieve. Nobody said it was easy, and I never could have imagined how hard it would be either. My job requires a lot of travel and even though I always come home daily and never stay over, I can't help but feel I'm failing him and the mrs. We have no local family so she's left with him all day and even though he's a lovely kid, he's hard work. I get home fucked or constantly feeling rushed from all the travel and I just don't feel like I'm getting it right for them.
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You can only do your best, ask any parent, it’s a really tough job, don’t let anyone tell you it’s easy. Just love them both.
 
Didn't think much of this, but last Saturday I was sat here waiting for the football to start when i got a huge pain in my shoulder and down my left arm. There appeared to be no reason but the pain intensified so that i had to hold my left arm up to my chest. As the pain started to fade after about 15 mins, i went very faint and my heart started to flutter madly. The sweat was poring off me and I dialled 9-9-.... and then hung up as I thought i was being to dramatic. I had a lie down and after about an hour, I was fine.
I've since heard it could have been a mild heart attack? I'm fine now, though....just the usual fatigue from Long Covid.
 
Marklr said:
Didn't think much of this, but last Saturday I was sat here waiting for the football to start when i got a huge pain in my shoulder and down my left arm. There appeared to be no reason but the pain intensified so that i had to hold my left arm up to my chest. As the pain started to fade after about 15 mins, i went very faint and my heart started to flutter madly. The sweat was poring off me and I dialled 9-9-.... and then hung up as I thought i was being to dramatic. I had a lie down and after about an hour, I was fine.
I've since heard it could have been a mild heart attack? I'm fine now, though....just the usual fatigue from Long Covid.
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Glad you are feeling a little better mate, but do yourself and your family a favour and don't pass over symptoms if you feel poorly again, get it sorted it's best to make sure.
 
mexico1970 said:
Glad you are feeling a little better mate, but do yourself and your family a favour and don't pass over symptoms if you feel poorly again, get it sorted it's best to make sure.
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I'd almost forgotten it happened. Apparently it could have been a mild heart attack. I'll call the doc tomorrow, see what they say. Can't be arsed going for more tests, though.
Nothing a nice joint won't sort out ;)
 
Marklr said:
I'd almost forgotten it happened. Apparently it could have been a mild heart attack. I'll call the doc tomorrow, see what they say. Can't be arsed going for more tests, though.
Nothing a nice joint won't sort out ;)
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you Sir, are a steely eyed missile man, but y'know..get yerself to the fkin doctors, pronto.
 
Marklr said:
I'd almost forgotten it happened. Apparently it could have been a mild heart attack. I'll call the doc tomorrow, see what they say. Can't be arsed going for more tests, though.
Nothing a nice joint won't sort out ;)
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Bit of time out of your life for more life seems a fair trade mate ;-)
 
Nebuchadnezzar said:
7 months into parenting my first and highly likely only son. I can say this with conviction as he was an IVF child and took 8 years to achieve. Nobody said it was easy, and I never could have imagined how hard it would be either. My job requires a lot of travel and even though I always come home daily and never stay over, I can't help but feel I'm failing him and the mrs. We have no local family so she's left with him all day and even though he's a lovely kid, he's hard work. I get home fucked or constantly feeling rushed from all the travel and I just don't feel like I'm getting it right for them.
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Trust me it will get easier, first babies can be hard, especially if you are older, ish ?
 
Marklr said:
I'd almost forgotten it happened. Apparently it could have been a mild heart attack. I'll call the doc tomorrow, see what they say. Can't be arsed going for more tests, though.
Nothing a nice joint won't sort out ;)
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Get to the quacks mate.
This is your body telling you it isn't running properly.
The symptoms you shown are classic heart attack symptoms. Next time pal, without wanting to sound too morbid, feeling that pain might be the last thing you feel then bang, see you later.
Honestly I'd be sat in A n E right now.
Get it checked.
 
Here goes….

I’m 54, beautiful loving wife, 4 great kids, 2 from a previous who are grown up now and twins of 14.

For the last 12 months I just can’t shake this feeling of being utterly useless and how much better off my wife and kids would be if I wasn’t here. I’m tired, feel empty and despite having a great job and a great employer, I’m just not interested anymore.

I’ve been to the doctors, spoken at length and had so many blood and health checks to rule everything out so I’ve no underlying issues other than depression which he treated me for but within a couple of weeks of going onto meds I was suffering from what I can only describe as panic/anxiety attacks. I was literally frozen with fear. I would sit unable to move or leave for work and whilst I managed to force myself into the car and go, I’d be driving the 20 mins in an absolute blind panic. I came off the meds, telling the doctor why and I won’t go back on them because frankly, the feeling down and depression was easier to deal with than the side effects I was having.

I’m just home from work now, I’ve spent half the day just doubting myself. I just don’t feel useful anymore tbh and I can’t shake it.

I’m away to Austria on Monday for work for the week and I literally have zero interest in going which I hate but I can’t help the way I feel.

Everything I loved in life, City, football, fuck all feeling any longer, I hate it.

No idea if it’s a mid life crises, my age, something many men my age go through but it’s not nice and I don’t see it getting any better to be honest and that scares me.

To any blues on here suffering, I feel for you, it’s shit.
 
Important Note it can happen in younger people as well I’m not a doctor just a City fan.
The term "male menopause" is often used to describe the symptoms associated with age-related testosterone decline, also known as androgen deficiency in the aging male (ADAM). These symptoms should be discussed with a general practitioner (GP), who can assess the cause and recommend appropriate treatment
Physical Symptoms
  • Fatigue and Low Energy: A general lack of energy and feeling tired.

  • Decreased Muscle and Strength: Loss of muscle mass and reduced physical strength.

    • Body Changes: Increased body fat, particularly around the abdomen, and a loss of body hair.
    • Hot Flashes and Sweating: Sudden feelings of warmth, sweating, and flushing, similar to women's hot flashes.
    • Sleep Problems: Insomnia, difficulty sleeping, and a general reduction in sleep quality.
    • Bone Health: Decreased bone density, leading to osteoporosis.
Psychological & Emotional Symptoms

    • Mood Changes: Irritability, mood swings, and feelings of mild depression or low mood.
    • Mental Function: Difficulty concentrating, poor short-term memory, and feelings of "brain fog".
    • Reduced Motivation: A general lack of motivation and low self-esteem.
Sexual Symptoms

Decreased Libido: A significant reduction in sex drive.”
  • Highly recommended a trip to the doctor.
If you are in the fifty plus age group then some of your symptoms may be due to the male menopause, a drop in hormones. I’ve copied and pasted this from google hoping it might help if you realise there is an explanation for how you feel emotionally and it’s on top of any other health issues you might have as well.
Female menopause was discussed openly by the media but for men it’s not talked about so much, a trip to the doctor if you can get an appointment and see if there is a treatment plan
 
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